The myth of BAD LUCK – is it really all about “right place, right time”?
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The journey towards demystifying bad luck all starts with the fundamental question: how did it get mystified in the first place?
Let’s go back hundreds of thousands of years. In ancient times, people mystified thunderstorms. They mystified the sun, moon, and other natural phenomenon – why? Because back in those days, they did not understand how those things work and what was really going on. Humans mystify things that we do not understand.
In the same way, today we mystify certain events, and we call them “bad luck.” Basically, it’s just another way of saying, “I don't understand why this is happening in my life,” or “Why this is happening to me?”
This is why here at Triumph Over Gray, you will encounter this adage a lot: KNOWLEDGE IS POWER. This is absolutely essential in the method that we use.
Think about it this way. Let's say you go to a party. You really don’t know if it's just a party, or if you are being set up for some reason, or if there's something else going on… you just don't know. You feel out of control, right? And when you don't know, you are out of control. Someone who knows – THAT person is in control. YOU are not. And that's why you feel insecure in those situations.
So, when you look at your life's events, if you don't know why things are happening, you are out of control. You're insecure; you are in chaos. And that's when we say bad luck happens.
But let's look at bad luck a little bit deeper. Obviously, this article won’t cover everything I can give you to demystify it completely – it's a lot broader and more complex. Hopefully, though, I can give you enough of a sneak peek that you'll walk away with the hope that there actually is no bad luck and that you can and should control the dynamics at work in your life.
So, when do we say it's “bad luck?” When I ask people this question, usually the first and most common answer that I get is, “Well, bad luck is not being at the right place at the right time. It’s when I'm not there. That's my bad luck.”
Think about that: how would you even know that you are not at the right place at the right time? How do you know that happened? Probably because someone else claims that they were at the right place and the right time, and this is why they had their good luck.
But let's think this through. For example, in business, imagine somebody lands the deal of a lifetime. Let’s say they win a really good bid or huge contract – because they happen to be at a specific networking event and a particular celebrity person was there. So, they’ll tell you they were “at the right place at the right time,” and that’s why it happened, right?
But is that it, really? OR is it how they run their business?
They CHOSE to go to the networking event – they probably went to quite a few of them before this happened. This is how they present their product. They started a conversation with that celebrity or that celebrity started a conversation with them. Either that person knew something about their business, to begin with, or they were proactive enough to approach the celebrity and present their business in a convincing, sellable way. So, is it really just being at that networking event? Or is it all the other things that determined the person's success? Sure, they may tell you, “Oh, that's just because I was there,” but is that really the truth?
Let’s look at another scenario, this time on a personal level: “Oh gee, I happened to be sitting on the airplane next to this wonderful person and we fell in love and that's my relationship of a lifetime… all because I happened to be there ‘at the right place, the right time.’”
Again, is it just the airplane? OR is it how she presents herself? How she goes about the relationship? How confident she feels about herself?
Another way you can know were not at the right place at the right time is because you really knew that the opportunity existed, and you missed it. It's not just somebody telling you, “Hey, I wasn't at the right place at the right time,” which is merely their interpretation. It’s about you knowing: “I should have been there, but I was not.”
Well, why weren't you? Probably because you didn't recognize that opportunity as something you should be investing your time and effort in. Or maybe you did not know about the opportunity because you didn't do the research, or you weren't thinking about it.
So, again, does that really boil down to being at that place at the right time? OR to you using your potential?
Were you seeing those opportunities as they come up? Were you able to recognize, were you able to have this intuitive insight of “Hey, that might hold a potential that I need to explore.” It all comes down to your potential and your ability to use this potential, NOT to a specific time and place.
Of course, this is obviously just a very surface example, but hopefully, this proves to you that what you may term “bad luck" has a lot of other dynamics around it – it basically boils down to you and your potential.
That’s how we demystify bad luck: we help you discover your potential, awaken it, and put it to use. It’s then that you’ll start seeing opportunities – you’ll know how to work those opportunities. You’ll feel confident enough to actually take the steps you need rather than being too uncomfortable to go for it and, say, approach those people you want and need to talk to. You’ll be able to actualize that spark in you that's sitting inside wanting to get out.
Imagine replacing “I want to go do it, but I can't,” with “I want to, and I WILL. I feel confident, I feel good inside, I feel empowered – so I'm going to do it.”
Despite whatever you feel may be imperfect around you, that's how we overcome bad luck: by awakening your potential.