If you feel like you're battling unanswered questions... STOP DOING THE SAME THING that created them in the first place:
STOP THE INSANITY!
It's time to stop the insanity.
So, what is that "one thing" that created the current situation?
The SPECIFIC answer will, of course, be different for every one of us.
But consider this:
Every "bad" problem -- as in, the problem that is worth stressing about (as you're likely are now) -- never simply falls out of the sky at some given moment.
It first starts with a SMALLER PROBLEM... and when that smaller problem does not get resolved, then a slightly bigger problem appears out of it, and so on.
AND WHY DID IT NOT GET RESOLVED?
You're probably expecting something like: well, that's because you didn't pay enough attention... or, that's because you didn't try hard enough, or, that's because you didn't realize XYZ, and so on.
In other words, it's somehow "your fault".
Unfortunately, mainstream psychology blames the victim. Always.
And then, to add insult to injury (or, more properly put, injury to the insult), it is more concerned with the "symptoms" -- for example, in case of anger, it is more concerned with how your anger is going to affect everyone else as opposed to why YOU are so prone to anger in the first place. (Just as ANY mainstream medicine, by the way: holistic treats the cause, mainstream treats the symptoms - but that's another subject)
he approach that leaves your needs out of the picture AND heaps on the blame -- as though you WANTED to create this negative result. And this is the approach that we default to, when we are faced with a challenge, because this is the only tool that we have. How can you expect to solve ANYTHING to your benefit with an approach that is set against you from the get go?
It's time to stop the insanity. When pills and other mainstream medical treatment failed to help with PHYSICAL ailments, many of us turned to holistic solutions and discovered amazing results. It's time to do the same when things are unwell EMOTIONALLY.
None of us CHOOSE to have negative outcomes in our lives -- so it's time to stop blaming the victim: telling you what to do and what would be a better way to go about things... like you don't know already. It's time to stop trying to control things that we don't have control over -- and gain control over those things that we CAN affect a different outcome of. It's time to nix the moralist approach and look at the root of things: what you have been through, what is going on now, and what emotional wounds and/or obstacles around you may be causing the present mishaps... NOT at what you "could have done better" or should do better next time.
Holistic psychology is indeed a very different approach, that takes a very different route in dealing with problems... but this is why it's not surprising that works 10x than mainstream. If you're skeptical about self-improvement, therapies, counseling, and so on, because you've tried it before and nothing worked (or even if your intuition is telling you that it probably won't), maybe it's time to try something new. After all, it's insanity to keep doing the same thing, and expect a different result.
To help you get started, we have created this "Holistic Emotional Healing 101" book: it will arm you with the insight on how you can do things differently... and THEN it will become obvious what you could "do better next time", without having to take anyone else's word for it.